Phoenix Hearted in Amanda Paradise

CAConrad | Amanda Paradise: Resurrect Extinct Vibration | Wave Books | 2021 | 136 Pages

The autumn equinox of my 30th year

 

Also the 15-year anniversary of my grandma’s death

 

It occurs to me that she left on the precipice

 

Of the inward journey of the seasons

 

Spilled food on my dress and remembered how she lamented

 

This quality in herself

 

A synthetic suede that reminds me of her couch

 

The color deepening when you brush your hand against

 

Her yelling for me to get my oily fingers off

 

I create a small altar and resolve

 

To step into the cave with grandma at my back

 

Will watch All About Eve later, inspired by CAConrad

 

After googling Bette Davis’ picture and remembering

 

Her face enlarged on grandma’s wall

 

Something in the spirit of the poet and my grandma aligned

 

Fierce, irreverent, bon vivant

 

 

Both in and outside the world of poetry

 

In and outside of community

 

Challenged, “so how does this happen?”

 

When I share my poems with a community leader

 

In the Camphill lifesharing community of Phoenixville, Pennsylvania

 

Guided here by my great-great-aunt Ya Chen

 

Her arrival to America aboard the Marine Phoenix on April 7, 1946

 

Working 13 hours a day in an environment that

 

Must be what it’s like living and working inside a honey bee’s nest

 

I have trouble even answering, “how was your day?”

 

Coloring the energy with more yeses and nos inside atoms

 

I understand the desire to know the web around and

 

It’s so hard to accept my effect

 

 

I start reading Lincoln in the Bardo during small breaks in activity

 

Concentrating my energy on something other than the swirl

 

Its grief brings me back to Amanda Paradise

 

Knowing CA’s medicine has worked on me before

 

I wonder about the poet’s young love and my own

 

The mutual passion that makes up the falling

 

Trusting and fearing on our first date

 

Knowing he would stick when he said

 

“You make me feel energized”

 

And I felt warm and tingly at my base

 

Which I have always thought was sexual

 

But am now realizing

 

Was the desire and safety to be close

 

 

To persuade my MFA program to invite CA to our campus a few years back

 

I told of the aliveness the day we studied their poems

 

Poetry no longer just about sitting and writing

 

But most of all about living

 

In “this vast sensual paradise … imbibing, smelling, sampling,

 

loving whomever I please … a sleeping dog dream-kicking

 

 in a tree-shade triangle; a sugar pyramid upon a blackwood

 

 tabletop being rearranged

 

grain-by-grain by an indiscernible draft … “ (Saunders)

 

Also F U C K  Y O U this A N G E R

 

The human spirit’s resistance to anything less than dignity

 

CA’s, grandma’s, insistence on disturbance

 

CA’s directive to write all across the page, take unruly shapes

 

Grandma once went to a black tie fundraiser

 

Wearing a Conehead cap with a bow on it

 

In and outside of country club society

 

In and out of spirituality

 

 

Helping others with their personal care in this new community

 

A window into my own

 

I remember at five mom teaching me to move the wash cloth

 

From vagina to butt and not the other way around

 

To bend over into the stream to clear the soap

 

Somehow this memory laden with my mom being neglected as a child

 

Never having been taught to take care of her own life, body, miracle

 

And the fear this creates of what’s here

 

I let out a moan in the shower, releasing some of what we’ve carried

 

When I first arrived I told S I was nervous to work with a disabled population

 

She replied, “but you’ve worked with people right?

 

So the same idea applies”

 

Not with judgment but a strength of heart

 

 

Living all time all the time

 

Not just preparing but living with past, present, future selves

 

The moments that would bring us to our knees

 

Trying to self-parent as my mind obsesses over a crush

 

Wanting it to mean family?

 

The shame and misogyny I've felt in this obsession

 

Desire to feel known and loved

 

I want to tell that 11-year-old that I don't think she wants to heal by forgetting

 

That a relationship might help

 

But it's not going to make the love and pain go away

 

And that that's a good thing

 

Because its her pain, her love, life, miracle

 

 

A realization about leaving my heart behind

 

And the possibility for ritual to bring it back

 

The ritual today is that I remember that ritual exists and

 

Before I write I dance for ten minutes

 

Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés says wisdom is whatever works

 

Lurching forward, expectant motion

 

Smelling all of our asses as one in the communal toilet

 

The untangling more painful than words

 

How to not leave my heart?

 

What does he mean to me?

 

Do I have to let him go to know?

 

 

At the doorstep is she who loves order

 

I am quiet and B holds space

 

Coming down on depakote, flipping through his Annie Liebowitz book

 

I feel grieved by how we treat the body heart mind

 

And am wondering if I am too sensitive for what I want

 

Did I say autism spectrum disorder?

 

Did I say he gave me space to learn?

 

Did I say thank you?

 

The inflection you inflict when trying to delight a child

 

All the time a child all the time who am I?

 

All the time the same day all the time my heart left

 

All the time getting high all the time trying to get high

 

All the time an addict all the time the two wings

 

Remembering to forget

 

A note, a sign, reminder

 

A love letter from a moment of wisdom

 

The sacred heart is in fire

 

To be bleeding and let the sun shine in

Xan Schwartz

Xan Schwartz is a poet healer who has studied creative writing at the University of Michigan’s Residential College and the Northeast Ohio Master of Fine Arts Program. She has been published by The Periphery, Heavy Feather Review, Zoomoozophone Review, and The Academy of American Poets. She lives in a Camphill lifesharing community, where people with disabilities and temporarily able-bodied people live and work together.

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